Do You Want to Find Out What You Really Want?

by - September 17, 2018


If you are reading this, I'd assume that the answer is 'yes'. And if this is so, then you're in the right place! It's time you find out what you really want, for yourself and your life in general. We spend a great amount of time between doing the things we 'should'. We prioritise what we believe we 'should' do and then only get around to what we want in the weekends. If I were to ask why you aren't doing what you want the majority of the time, what would your answer be? That you have no choice? This is what life is all about? It is what it is? It's too late now? What else is there? Come on, give me your best shot.

Now if I were to ask what your ideal day looks like, what would you say?

Before you answer, I would invite you to close your eyes for a moment and take a deep breath. Envision your ideal day. Now open your eyes and tell me, how did it feel? How did you feel?

How do you WANT to feel?

If you want to find out what you want, these questions are the first step to taking you there. Self-discovery doesn't just happen, you seek it, you do the work and then you let go and allow it to come to you.


Your answers are the first part of finding out. They are your compass to discovering what you really want, regardless of whether it's changing your job, starting a business, meeting your life partner, having a family, or travelling across the globe. It doesn't matter what it is that you want, it matters whether you really want it and whether you are ready to get there.

But for that happen you need to take the time aside with no distractions and be deeply honest with yourself. It might be uncomfortable and bring raw emotions to the surface, but you can't know without prompting and reflecting. You can't know without seeking first.


Once you have a clearer picture of what you want, you are almost halfway there. Of course, things are not going to just magically change, but having a new direction and building on your awareness are the key pieces that you cannot really start without. From then onwards you will need to identify what you can do to make that ideal day a reality and clear out the blocks that obstruct the road.

What is holding you back?

What is getting in the way of living the life you want?

Is it trying to make other people happy and putting yourself last? Is it fear that you might not get there or fear that you might be judged by others? Is it the lack of self-belief in your abilities and not believing in your worthiness? It could be anything.

Being aware of what has been stopping you from going after what you want is not an easy task. It takes time and courage to unravel things you've neglected and brushed aside. But don't let the fear of the process hold you back from committing wholeheartedly to what you really want. Things from the past may reappear and trigger you, but release your resistance and gently work your way through them. You can do that in any way that speaks to you - finding information in personal development books, listening to relevant podcasts, signing up to workshops and courses or working with a life coach. The choice is yours!


Once you awaken your desires, it's absolutely normal to feel more inspired and excited to make them happen. The energy can invigorate you and you may feel like you just can't wait anymore. Yet focusing on the destination or the outcome can in return deflate your motivation. Slow down the race and pick up a pace that makes you feel good.

You are exactly where you are supposed to be.

Anytime you feel discourages, remember this. You are doing the best you can, you are making your dreams happen. When we lose the present moment, we get caught up in thinking only of the outcome, but if you don't feel enjoyment throughout the process, the likelihood is that you might not feel enjoyment when you get there either. Trust that you are on the path and it is all working out. As long as you are honouring your commitment to yourself and you keep going, you will find fulfilment. It might not be always in the shape and form you've expected, but focus on the feeling you seek, not the 'thing' you want to have.

And then let go. Release your need for control, your need to manage, and your expectations and simply allow yourself to be where you are right now. Allow yourself to feel the joy of the present moment, accept what you have now and the person you are. Once we let go of resistance, we welcome peace that eases the hurry and worry, which then gifts us with quiet happiness and more patience.

You are getting there. 

Let me know in the comments below if this piece resonated with you!

In Daily Motivation we will lead the fight to stay motivated, whether it's about your job, the boring tasks you have to deal with, the workplace-built intolerance, finding the strength and time for your real passions, follow what truly makes you happy, or just live and wake up without the daunting feeling of having to go through another rushed day.

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